I have a lot of male friends and they give me a lot of insight on their views. Recently I made a post where I touched on the idea that intelligent men love intelligent women. Today I was texting a friend of mine and apparently it’s OK to be smart…just not TOOOO smart.

Is there such a thing as being too smart

It is my opinion that a person who values you will not want to manipulate you. A person who values you will not feel like it is a competition. There are many things that we can blame for this mindset. While I found these messages appalling, I wanted to share them because some men do feel this way. When you don’t get the proposal don’t think something is wrong with you. It is so easy to question yourself and question what you did wrong. All men don’t feel this way, but be mindful of those who do. You are a person and you matter. You shouldn’t have to be ashamed of your intellect or voice to make someone else comfortable.

Is Religion to Blame

As a person who loves Theology, I have to ask myself if some of these ideas ingrained in us from an early age by having a poor understanding of a woman’s role in spirituality. 1 Corinthians 11:12 says “For as woman was made from man, so man is now born of woman. And all things are from God.” Genesis 1:27 says ” So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.” This seems to say that a woman and a man have equal importance in the sight of God, but then we have scriptures such as 1 Timothy 2:12 I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man; she must be quiet. I can see where someone could get the idea from this text that it is better for a woman not to speak, or as the saying goes “be seen and not heard.” The Quran (2:223) says – Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when or how ye will… A tilth is land. This means that you wives are as your land (property) so approach as you choose. I love God. This is in no way to means that spirituality is bad, but I think when people take pieces, have poor understanding, or take the things that they want to fit their own narrative, hate can arise.

What about our daughters?

When I asked my friend what about our daughters he explained that he would never want his daughter to stifle herself. He would never want her to dumb herself down for anyone. He wants her to be strong and proud. This makes me wonder why is it OK to treat someone else’s daughter in a way that you would not want your daughter to be treated, but then again…I suppose his answer would be that he doesn’t care about someone else daughter. The truth is we are all family. We should not treat others in ways that we do not want people to treat the people that we care deeply for,

The moral of the story is you can be soft, carefree, blowing in the wind, and on fire all at the same time. Don’t allow stereotypes to define you, and don’t allow anyone to dim your light. Keep your fire burning. Someone will appreciate it. Many great women in history have raised their voices, and we were better because of it. What if Angela Davis kept her fist down worried about what men would think. There is no such thing as being too smart, but there is such a thing as allowing yourself to keep company with someone who doesn’t appropriate the gift of your intelligence.