On March 31, 2019, the world lost Ermias Asghedom also known as Nipsey Hussle. It was just last year that we lost such a great rapper, but it still seems like yesterday. He was known for doing a lot in his community. He was known for using his celebrity to positively influence others. It is still painful to our young black community which he has heavily influenced. Sadly we have recently lost another L.A. great. On January 26, 2020 the world lost Kobe Bryant. The youngest man to ever play in an NBA game. He will be known for being one of the greatest basketball players in history.

I have been seeing a meme going around on the internet

I asked my friend why are people not seeing Kobe’s business mind? Kobe wasn’t just a Basketball player, but he was a businessman. He was a writer. He won an Oscar. Why are people not recognizing Nipsey as a father? I asked a friend of mine and he told me it was how they passed away, and the narrative that the media put on their deaths. Nipsey died at his business so the media is immortalizing his business savvy, and Kobe died while with his child so people are speaking of the father that he was.

Either way, it made me think about how much we don’t appreciate men. You hear so many women talking about how there are NO good men and how its hard to find a good man. Good men are all around us. Good black men are all around us. When you change your mindset to appreciating and realizing the good in people, you will attract good people.

I want us to appreciate the people in our lives while they are here. More importantly, I want you to appreciate the men in your lives. Don’t get caught up wanting to fit in with your friends and talk badly about your man because she is talking about her man. All men are not lazy, manipulative, cheaters, whatever. Don’t let the media hype you up to talk bad about men, especially black men. The media does a good enough job of that.

The moral of the story is to give your husband, father, brother, son, all the good men you know the credit that they deserve while they are still on this earth. Let them know how they bring something to your life. Let them know that you are glad to know them and to have them around you.